Today, a few people I spoke were reflecting on self-coaching. One person wondered to what extent that would be useful and another person reflected on how solution-focused questions might help. My view is that the solution-focused approach can be very useful for self-coaching, indeed. Here are 4 questions for solution-focused self-coaching:
- Change desire: What would I like to be different and what is my reason for wanting this?,
- Desired situation: How would I like my situation to become, what would I like to be able to do?,
- Past success: When have I, in a more or less comparable situation, already been able to achieve something like that?,
- Step forward: What has been useful in reflecting on this and what small step forward might I take?
Hi Coert: Been self-coaching myself for years with varying success :)
ReplyDeleteGot back into a serious yoga practice recently and now included the question to myself: What is it about my situation or my response to it that I am not accepting?
I am getting better at simply witnessing my emotional state (often frustration or anger. Comes with growing older!!) and accepting that is my reaction to my circumstance.
From this point I ask myself what is it I would have different? Often the answer that comes back is nothing need change but my own response could be gentler.
Then from that gentler more loving and accepting place I am better able to see the next small step forward.