Here is a little solution-focused puzzle. Can you guess what the solution-focused mediator said when these two clients came to his office for help in solving their interpersonal conflict? (Try to guess both interventions by the solution-focused meditator right). If you want to receive one of the solutions to this puzzle, send an email to solutionfocusedchange@gmail.com.
| Client 1 | John is so lazy and manipulative! He lets me do all the work. And afterwards he even tries to take credit for my work. |
| Client 2 | Pete is always complaining and playing the victim … Such a baby! Grow up, man! |
| SF-coach | ……. |
| Client 1 | You got that right! |
| Client 2 | Yeah, right. |
| SF-coach | ……. |
| Clients | Both are quiet and think. After about 5 seconds one of them says: that is a very good question … |
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I haven't figured out the answer yet. When will you share it with us?
Rodney
First Intervention: So you would like to see John/Pete behave differently in the relationship with you.
Second Intervention: So if I were a fly on the wall at your house what would be the first think i would notice John/Pete doing differently that would tell me that John/Pete is starting to do things more the way you want him to?
thx Rodney and Phillip!
If you want to receive one solution please send an email to: solutionfocusedchange@gmail.com
1) it sounds that there is a sort of a conflict between you 2 lately you want to change right now...
2) so... suppose... you manage this change, both of you, in a way we don't know yet... how could you then act or react differently?
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