"Fantasizing about heaven on earth may put a smile on your face but is unlikely to help transform your dreams into reality."
What I like about this quote is that it warns against thinking about goals in terms of ideal situations, just like I do in this article: Solution-Focused Scaling Questions.
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Well...
but a smile on my face might get me in a resourceful state, optimal for making my dreams a reality...
Hi Paolo, thanks!
Clever argument :) (as always)
But dreaming itself isn't what doesn't work, I think, it is the heaven on earth part. I think it may be wiser to keep the dreams a bit smaller and less idealistic. I wrote about that in the post series: How good does it get? http://solutionfocusedchange.blogspot.com/2008/12/how-good-does-it-get.html
I think not all smiles are the same. It is like Carol Dweck's observation: a compliment about a child's intelligence does create a smile on the child's face. A little later the child will start worrying about his intelligence-label and may become risk aversive. (http://solutionfocusedchange.blogspot.com/2007/12/process-praise-more-effective-than.html)
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